I know the subject of asexuality and sex acceptance can be a fraught subject because aces are already stereotyped as inherently slut-shaming and homophobic for their orientation. This is, of course, textbook aphobia: Being slut-shaming or homophobic is a matter of choices and beliefs, not a sexual orientation.

With that in mind I think it's still important to discuss that some people on the asexual spectrum do go through or went through a slut-shaming phase, myself included. Some determined jerks never leave that phase, but again, I'll let you use the fact against all aces if you can show me ONE marginalized group that does not have its share of jerks. Just one. I'll wait.

Here's another reason slut-shaming is no ace in the hole (hah) for aphobes: Far from being slut-shaming being inherent to asexuality, slut-shaming for aces is often a reaction to aphobia, not to mention an example of the utterly messed up way a lot of us are taught to engage with sex.

( Discussions of aphobia, sex, slut-shaming, exclusionism )

Update: Comments are back up, having been disabled by mistake. Thanks lb_lee for bringing this to my attention. Everyone should feel free to tell me how wrong I am on this, as I am squicked by my own conclusion and would love it if someone changed my mind.


Remember the anti-gay-marriage crowd's dire warnings that legalizing gay marriage would lead to the legitimacy of incest and bestiality, and how the rest of us pooh-poohed them as hateful backward hicks?

Well, maybe the right-wingers had a point 

( Conservatives should feel free to point and laugh )

By defining marriage as a compact between consenting adults, it seems we liberals have indeed paved the way for a world in which a father and daughter can wed, or two sisters can walk proudly down the aisle. I don't know if it'll take ten years or a hundred, but there's no logically consistent way to say these couples should not be recognized by law. Disgusted as I am at the idea, I just don't see how I can say "no" to consensual incestuous marriage.